tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post1664480164069476081..comments2023-06-05T03:59:27.169-04:00Comments on Child Psych: You Asked: What Are the Effects of Rape?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger80125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-60563538195043065782014-03-01T12:50:01.718-05:002014-03-01T12:50:01.718-05:00When you report him, take your father for support ...When you report him, take your father for support if possible. Prayer has been my only true relief. I turned to God because it was too much too handle and like must of us who experienced it, i wanted to disappear and wished it never happened. I was haunted and tormented by it for years. When i thought about suicide i remembered that hell is a billion times worse. Giving up on life is giving up on Gods plans for our life. We need to trust him and turn to him. He will save you (all of you suffering) from your fears and pain. He loves you dearly and wants to help you but you need to ask for it through prayer. He will turn the all bad into good.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-89058283386533064362014-01-16T08:59:25.440-05:002014-01-16T08:59:25.440-05:00i was sexually abused when i was 7 til i turned 17...i was sexually abused when i was 7 til i turned 17. by my stepdad he use to tell me all the time that if i didnt do what he said that he wouldnt let me do anything that i wanted and if i would tell that no one would believe me and that my mom would have no money to take care of me nd my 3 lil brothers. its hard to talk about im 18 now and my dad just found out and he wants me to call the cops but i cant cause idk whatll happen to my mom and my 3 lil brothers im scared depressed and can hardly sleep i barely talk to anyone nd if i do its not about my feelings i can never have an emotional bond in a relationship and im single now and will always be cause i cant take the flashbacks .. i cant be in pitch black or walk alone by myself cause im afraid its gonna happen again. ive tried killing myself but i cant actually do it because of my dad. he cant lose me too. and i still have no clue what im going to do .. i just wish none of this woulda happened. it stopped when i told my mom but no one believed me. my mom and older brother told me i was lying cause they believed him not me ... i couldnt tell anybody after that cause i knew they wont believe me which is why i also dont wanna go to the cops cause what if they dont believe me or blame it on me.... Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-85279775492416294502014-01-15T19:28:35.496-05:002014-01-15T19:28:35.496-05:00Its not your fault. Its never ever the victims fau...Its not your fault. Its never ever the victims fault. I know it feels that way because I let my x get away with sexually assulting me. I feel like its my fault but I know he was the one to blame not me and you need to realize this as well. It was his fault not yours Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-12770659471176252172014-01-15T13:26:27.573-05:002014-01-15T13:26:27.573-05:00When I was 15 I got my first real boyfriend so I w...When I was 15 I got my first real boyfriend so I was really excited. After a short while I started going to his house after school because he didn't like my house or hobbies. At his house he told me we should have sec. I protested hut he convinced me that I would probably never have sex otherwise, and since I already had self esteem issues I said yes though I still really didn't want to. <br /><br />Soon it came to where when I was at his house he expected me to lay down and deal with it. Afterwards he hardly said anything till my mom picked me up. If I protested he'd tell me he couldn't sleep if we didn't or some other lie about his health so I would feel guilty. He regularly insulted me and told me I was worthless, going so far as to break up with me until I acted better. The second time he did that he faked suicide because I didn't want him in my life. <br /><br />I had three boyfriends since him and for a long time it didn't matter. Now I'm with a boy I love very much and recently its started to bother me again. I didn't tell anyone at the time because I felt like since I said yes it didn't count, but it haunted me anyway. I don't know if you consider it to be or not, I just want it to stop bothering me so it doesn't ruin my current relationship. I just want it to go away.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-30923915642640023032014-01-14T01:11:00.378-05:002014-01-14T01:11:00.378-05:00When I was really young I was sexually abused. I&#...When I was really young I was sexually abused. I've had alot of these symptoms my whole life and last year when I was 15 my 18 year old boyfriend forced me to have sex with him even though id cry the whole time. Now I'm with someone very loving who I have actually been able to tell some of this too. He keeps asking how he can help me and I don't know what to tell him to do to help me. I also can't go to a psychiatrist because I don't think I could live with myself if I had to tell my mom that my x and my neighbor when I was a child abused me this way because she would blame herself and be so upset and I can't handle the way she would look at me. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-80221043616086570472013-12-24T04:18:39.386-05:002013-12-24T04:18:39.386-05:00I was raped when I was 11 years old by my ex stepd...I was raped when I was 11 years old by my ex stepdad. My mom had overdosed and i woke up to flashing lights on the hallway wall, and got up to see paramedics running in and out of my mom's room, and they were wheeling her out to the ambulance. My ex stepdad came up to me, and closed me in my bedroom til they were gone, and that was when he raped me. I don't remember the details of the actual rape, i tried to block those out, as anyone would do. He then left me at home by myself sitting watching TV with the family dog at 3AM. The show that was on was That's So Raven, but I couldn't even watch it cause I was still in shock and crying so much. So, the years went on, and I went through multiple therapists for my mental health issues (i currently am diagnosed with Schizo-affective disorder [diagnosed in 2009], ADHD, and Asperger's syndrome.), and every time i got a new therapist, I tried to tell them what happened that night, but none of them ever believed me because before i got the Schizo-affective diagnosis, they would consult my mom about everything since she was my guardian, and they are able to talk to her about anything that they have concerns about, and she would tell them that there was no way that he would have done that, and then after my diagnosis in 2009, they used that as an excuse saying that i didn't know what i was talking about because i am delusional (i hear voices, not see things), so they brushed it off. Another reason that they said he couldn't have done that was because at the time, he was the assistant county attorney for the county where we still live, and that would have gone against their morals and statue of limitations to question him. So, I've lived my life hating his guts and wishing he would die and rot in hell, and when I ran into him one time on a psych ward (he had moved to the juvenile area of the job), I ran the other way and went to my room and cried for 5 hours straight because the memories started flooding back in. So, I'm now 20 years old, and my sister is pregnant, and is wanting to have my ex stepdad in the delivery room when she has her kid. I have tried telling her that that is not going to go over well with my mom or I because of how he treated both of us, and she isn't budging. Neither she or my mom know that he raped me, my mom because i dont think she would believe me still, and i'm afraid to tell her because she's emotionally unstable right now, and my sister doesn't know because she's been all buddy-buddy with him still, and I don;t think she would believe me either.<br /><br />I"m writing this post because I don't know what to do. I want to tell my sister so that she will see who he really is, and so that she will know what really happened and why I hate him so much, and also so that she will not allow him to be there when her baby is born, and there won't be as much stress, but i also know that if i tell her, she will end up telling my mom because my mom will wonder why she changed her mind all of a sudden, and once my mom finds out, I'm afraid that she will blame herself because "had she not overdosed that one night, this never would have happened" and try to commit suicide again.<br /><br />I don't know what to do. Someone, please help me?^-^ Cynthia ^-^https://www.blogger.com/profile/10096049438524431992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-62938196149141140592013-11-26T19:35:16.314-05:002013-11-26T19:35:16.314-05:00I was 17 when I was raped. I reported it when I wa...I was 17 when I was raped. I reported it when I was 18 because I saw that David raped someone else in the paper. I had told people he had raped me so, when he showed up in the paper I thought it would prove to people that I wasn't lying. The cops ran over my case and claims like they were nothing. I am now 22 and this boy still runs the streets. I will not rest until he is locked up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-68524018471683549042013-11-18T01:57:28.995-05:002013-11-18T01:57:28.995-05:00I read your post and I want to tell you something ...I read your post and I want to tell you something .my daughter she is 10 now she told me when she was 9 that my fiancé had been raping her for two Yrs. The point is their is no great way to tell a parent,my daughter told me crying in a doctor office.You are giving the perpetrator power right now,when you tell you are in a sense taking it back.Take a deep breathe ,TELL THEM and say what has held you prisoner for so long.They want to help Let them Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-24334445823698779232013-11-10T00:03:23.513-05:002013-11-10T00:03:23.513-05:00I was raped about 7/8 very often also my sister sh...I was raped about 7/8 very often also my sister she said she stay till I was 16and. She went before So at 15 I left home and abused drugs and booze I've been ganged raped and more raped even locked in a house and raped I am 22 now I'm always angry and stressful I'm that stress I have pains in my head and spine got bots am in a relationship and I can't trust even I should I have fear if I can have children I don't wanna leave my children to have same in trying to change my self because my partner can't corp Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-45943175197365074952013-11-02T23:23:14.623-04:002013-11-02T23:23:14.623-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08175324662055470689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-22645231137092891272013-10-26T15:58:18.092-04:002013-10-26T15:58:18.092-04:00I was raped at 17 at the river by someone I've...I was raped at 17 at the river by someone I've known since I was 8 years of age I try to forget about it but I can't Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-13717334526283881382013-10-25T12:21:57.036-04:002013-10-25T12:21:57.036-04:00You are not overreacting at all. I had the misfort...You are not overreacting at all. I had the misfortune of being raped when I was conscious and when I was passed out. I still don't know which is worse. Both still give me a sick feeling when I think about it. It's really scary to wake up and find your skirt riding up your legs or your panties on skew. It's absolutely disgusting what this guy did to you. Report him to the police please, it will make you feel stronger within yourself. I hope you heal. There are always people willing to listen. Rape should not be a taboo'd subject. We cannot suffer in silence. Look after yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-59391720765858128692013-10-25T12:14:02.605-04:002013-10-25T12:14:02.605-04:00I don't know if you can help. I don't live...I don't know if you can help. I don't live in America so your helplines are useless. I was raped and molested as a young teenager and as a child, for the most part I dealt with things normally. I grew up, and fast. I abused drugs. I allowed my cousins boyfriend to sleep with me just so I could get drugs. Then for a couple of years I was absolutely normal. Antisocial, and withdrawn, but no more drugs. After I left school I took a gap year and started waitressing. There I got involved with a married man (separated) it turned into an ugly and abusive affair. I do not understand how I am capable of this. My morals are in check. I volunteer with the police as a trauma counselor, I've applied to University. I still can't seem to form a meaningful relationship with a guy. What scares me the most is that even know at my current job as a receptionist I have a crush on my married boss. I have not, and do not intend to follow through with anything sinister. But it scares me, and I'm scared of him, I'm scared he might know. I feel powerless, not because I would succumb to him but because I have these unthinkable fantasies in the first place. I feel utterly alone in this. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-2089345718661513962013-10-23T17:05:00.570-04:002013-10-23T17:05:00.570-04:00I was raped by my father. It started when i was ar...I was raped by my father. It started when i was around 10-13 years old and continued til I was 16-17. When I finally told someone, my family didnt believe me, they called me a dirty liar. Im now 24 and although I've been 'over it' for years, recently ive been thinking about it and I dont know why. I hope everyone out there comes out and tells someone regardless of what happens after, it will be better than continuing with the abuse. Stay safeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-1030557111613877782013-08-27T10:55:44.523-04:002013-08-27T10:55:44.523-04:00Your just described how ive been feeling for the p...Your just described how ive been feeling for the past 6& a half months im only 15 but ive been raped 4 times by different men its been like .. how you said.. i dont even no where to begin..or what can help me..its likes ive been emontionally tramatized forever ive never talked to anyone- mostly because i lost my bestfriend after because i was doin crystal meth with her so i told her to get the fuck out of mty life basically. But my sotry about rape is way more then i could ever try to explain to someone in person, you know those movies you see..where theres those Arabian men and they have a bunch of white little girls.. that was me.. and a couple of my friends.. its like they took turns with us... like we were just a piece of nothing..like...i saw things... i saw my bestfriends being done up the ass by fucking nasty pigs! They would record them doing things... and would get us drunk and then make us drink some clear liquiod and i would wake up...half naked with some man having sex with me. <--- thats my story but with so much more, i cant type for an hour lol. But PlEASe!!!! Talk to someone!!! Dont you dare be ashamed its NOT ur fault your a beautiful beautiful person that just deserves love and respect. I know how hard it is and you cant ever forget because i know for me... if its not one of the first things i think about when i wake up... i think about it later in the day.. and it doesnt leave my head. I get so sad and just wanting to explain my story just so someome can comfort me instead of talking about there feelings and not letting me talk. So please i know im younger then you but just do it. You should be happy. Even tho things can be so hard. Xo - Stay Golden Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-44512257956208210882013-08-25T12:29:08.924-04:002013-08-25T12:29:08.924-04:00it started with my dad and our French kissing.i gu...it started with my dad and our French kissing.i guess I was around five or six.i didn't know it was wrong,i feel sick to say that I thought it was nice,we called them funny kisses. one day he said no and stopped it; I was confused. around twelve more sexual things happened to me; but I knew it wasn't right not one bit. things kept happening to me and I became quite sexual in my body movements and such; abit hard to explain.i was nt fucked,not that I can remember anyway.i had real intercourse at fifteen. I always had massive issues with them touching my nipples still do. I hated breast feeding I would cry everytime.i was raped by a friend at twenty who admitted it after a year or so, I was so flirty that no one would have believed me. ive never really liked sex its always an issue with my partners as I VOID AND USE EVERY EXCUSE I can think of to get out of doing it.i have ptss massive anxiety depression ive tried to kill myself so many times just about succeeded for times.my physchiatrist is pretty good but of late not so much and totally doesn't want to hear about the sexual things that have happened to me.he makes me feel like I make them up;im so over that shit im actually getting angry right now and my hands are sising up got ago sz firko nom...ok back now I have some kind of seizures now which I say are stressed relted.anyhow its made me very tired and so I cant say anymore right now except you are not alone that sounds so silly I want to say more but my heads a mess that happens after one of my fits or I mean im just tired now or sumthing im sorry im a rambling.love to all of you and il write more soon.thanks to if you gave thas your time thanks mean it.jaxsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-36554976975423158232013-08-24T03:02:57.868-04:002013-08-24T03:02:57.868-04:00Hi! I am 22yrs and i need help. my mother ws raped...Hi! I am 22yrs and i need help. my mother ws raped by his brother not by sharin moms or dad but who is a family relative. My mom told me abt this n ever since i knew abt it i nevr talked abt it, i feel ashemed, i fake my self i am nt the real me. I think abt it every day that i am a child of rape n it kills me. Nw i hv a child n the father of my child want to leave m coz i hv issues dat are nt dealt with n i cnt tel him dat i am like ths, coz i dnt feel ok around him. Cn u plz plz hlp m how do i get through al ths witout loosing da 1 i lov.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-71885260613918824082013-07-19T13:35:07.168-04:002013-07-19T13:35:07.168-04:00i was raped by my cousin when i was 9 years old,i ...i was raped by my cousin when i was 9 years old,i didnt know i was raped at that time because he said he were playing with me.i have some images and flashbacks of that time but besides that i dont remember anything.i dont remember how many times he did that,i only remember not liking it,when i was older he pretended as if nothing happened,me too was confused whether i was raped or not.it all happened before i had menses or my knowledge about sexuality.but i had developed habits like carelessness,numbness,guity feelings,watching tvs excessively,reading fictions alot,not trusting anyone,i had also suffered depression at teeenage.now i am 22 years old and recently i shared this secreat with who was also childhood abuse victim.i cried so hard and accepted the fact which i was suppressing for many years.i also told my mom and she was supportive,i felt so releived after that like i had shove off heavy burden from my shoulder,but nowdays i am developing good attitudes to overcome my bad ones.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-63096156564958297662013-07-15T15:07:00.350-04:002013-07-15T15:07:00.350-04:00My closest friend told me today that she was raped...My closest friend told me today that she was raped repeatedly by her mum's ex boyfriend when she was 7 years old. she has depression and is self harming, her mum doesn't know, and when she tried to tell her mum she brushed her off telling her she was lying. I don't know what to do to try and help my friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-42596783986229615432013-06-09T04:09:28.776-04:002013-06-09T04:09:28.776-04:00I was raped a year ago I still get very angry and...I was raped a year ago I still get very angry and sometimes i get flash backs start getting headaches I make jokes about rape sometimes I wake up screaming I don't like going out I hate guys and I feel un easy when they're around I get anxiety and I am always depressed...........will this go away?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-42696578227635059272013-06-03T18:59:31.925-04:002013-06-03T18:59:31.925-04:00Its not your fault you was 7 i was sexually assalt...Its not your fault you was 7 i was sexually assalted by my cousin when i was younger im almost 17 now and in therapy if u tell ur mum or someone they WILL help or go to a councellorAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-15613501924240464032013-02-04T20:47:46.157-05:002013-02-04T20:47:46.157-05:00I'm so sorry you are or were going thru this.P...I'm so sorry you are or were going thru this.Please tell someone....Get some help......I'm praying for you..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-10432677240015010172013-02-04T15:23:38.974-05:002013-02-04T15:23:38.974-05:00i was sexually abused when i was 6or 7 i dont reme...i was sexually abused when i was 6or 7 i dont remember it ol perfectly but it was my landlords son...now i m 18+..can u pl tell me wat it effect on mie life wen i have a bf or a husband...if i would not tell them about it..will they able to know about it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-32414987546601730542013-01-27T14:52:42.219-05:002013-01-27T14:52:42.219-05:00I was raped by a family friend when I was 11. He s...I was raped by a family friend when I was 11. He said to never tell, I would not be believed. When I was 12 I told my mother about it. She grounded me, then quit talking to me. She kicked me out of the house by the time I was 13. She said that I was a dirty horrable lier. I tried blocking out everything. I am now 40 and just trying to function.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6945371051071312299.post-82458357119105565892013-01-18T00:55:36.553-05:002013-01-18T00:55:36.553-05:00My story I guess is no different than the others b...My story I guess is no different than the others but anyways, I was raped when I was seven years old I was taking my dog out in a field and while my dog was sniffing the ground I sat down. While I was sitting there a guy cam up to me and sat by me back then I like meeting new people but I didn't talk to him. He got up and covered my mouth and held me down and raped me, when my dog started barking he left. I never told anyone not even my parents or friends or anyone close, I'm scared they probably wont believe me or they'll think its my fault for not being careful. My past has been haunting me coming back as nightmares and I blame myself for everything that happened for trusting and now I cant trust anyone or myself. Now I cut myself because I feel angry, scared and frustrated and so confuse, I don't know what to feel. I hate the flashbacks I feel ashamed and I cant sleep at night I hate myself I get scared when someone touches me and I didn't see them coming or I didn't know them. I don't know what I should do its tearing me apart but its nice to know that I'm not alone in this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com